Monday, November 8, 2010

Experience Good Timing & Flow



Cynthia Sue LarsonCynthia Sue Larson in Sonoma, California. See Cynthia summarize this RealityShifters on YouTube video!
Experience Good Timing & Flow

"Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different."
- Stacey Charter

I enjoyed watching the World Series baseball games this past month -- especially the players who managed to consistently stay calm despite the pressures of performing at their opponents' home stadium in front of thousands of people in a nationally televised game. Clearly, being on top of one's game requires not just skill, but also an inner quality of character that helps ensure a relaxed attitude, complete focus, good timing, and seemingly effortless flow.

What kind of mindset brings us most readily to that optimal state of experiencing relaxation in the face of tremendous opposition, so we can maintain good timing and flow? When I reflect on this question, I get the answer: acceptance. Accepting ourselves as we are, and the world as it is, from a place of loving oneself even if other people might think of us as atypical, a misfit, or even a "freak."

Attaining this kind of self acceptance that ensures an optimal blend of being relaxed, focused and poised is something each one of us can cultivate for ourselves, and it starts in a state of unconditionally loving oneself. We can take daily check-points of how we are feeling, in order to pay closer attention to how relaxed versus tense we are, how loving versus fearful we are, and how joyful versus sad we feel. Whatever we are feeling thus becomes a kind of set point, which we can observe and accept, noting things we would like to change in our lives that we have the ability to improve, and making a commitment to ourselves to make those improvements, always unconditionally loving and accepting ourselves just as we are, every step of the way.

It turns out that this kind of openness and mindfulness is also the optimal approach to parenting, as Dr. Shefali Tsabary points out in her wonderful book, The Conscious Parent. When we embrace the totality of who we are, including our imperfections, we empower ourselves and those around us to be the best we can be at who we are.



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Love always,
Cynthia Sue Larson
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